Sunday, November 23, 2008

Three times the work or three times the blessings?


So latlely I have been reading blogs of other triplet moms and talking to a few and I am starting to feel a little uneasy of the up-comming years...especially when i think about them all starting to crawl and walk at the same time. So I have been thinking is it really three times the work or three times the blessings?



I have decided it is both. I love our little ones and they have brought great joy and happiness to our home, they have also brought lots of tears, doubts and frustration as well. But when I way it all out the joy and happiness they have brought greatly out weighs the not so great stuff. So my new saying is three times the work, but three times the blessings.



Just as a side note to this post...



So latley when I have gone out with the babies and Taylor I hear a lot of people say that they are so glad that it's not them, or ask what I was thinking actually agreeing to carry all 3 (when you are having triplets you have the option for selctive reduction...so not me), or many people telling what a horrible life I must have. Then on the other hand I have people tell me that it is a great blessing to have 3 healthy babies, and a toddler to bring so much love to our home, or tell me how special it is to have triplets. So as I have pondered these things that have been said to me I have made a couple conclusions

1. All the negitive comments I have gotten have come from us through and through Canadians

2. All the positive comments have come from people whos families are immagrents to canada.



Why is it that a majority of Canadians see having multiple babies at a time as the most horrible thing to ever happen to a person, while other cultures see it as a great blessing and a privlage. Has the world really turned that many people into negtive doom sayers....that can't see the blessings for what it is...A BLESSING not a TRAGEDY???



Just something to ponder.

4 comments:

TinaLaRae said...

that truly something to think about. I for one have been one of those "I'm glad it's you and not me". I now won't say such things to anyone with multiples or even those who happen to have their babies like 11 months apart. They are such a BLESSING no matter how the come into our lives!

Michelle said...

I use to be one of those people too. Don't get me wrong my heart goes out to anyone who is having multiples, I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but now when I hear that people are expecting multiples, my heart goes out to them in many different ways, and I tell them what a blessing it will be.

The Spencers said...

I enjoyed reading your post. I totally understand in some ways what you are saying. I agree with you that even though having triplets is three times the work (or more!) it is diffinately 3 times the blessings. I would never change anything. There is many challenges to having multiples but the blessings do out weigh them. Going to the grocery store etc I still hear people say things negative and positive to me having triplets. Especially when I was big and pregnant and pushing the girls in a cart. If someone says, "Oh I'm so sorry......." I just smile and say, "don't be I'm not" and I walk away. But yeah the comments never stop. Maybe it doesn't help that I dress my girls alike most of the time. Because they diffinately aren't identical. Oh well!!! Your kids are so cute!! Love the pictures.

amy w. said...

I am shocked that people would make such insensitive comments to you... but then again I also think people just don't know when to shut up. I think any child(ren) are blessings whether they come in 1's 2's or 3's. I guess over time you will have to come up with some really good comebacks. :D